feeling like a buzz
My 70 year old Dad is still one of the funniest and most intriguing characters I’ve ever met. He was one of Australia’s earliest pioneers of pornography in the early 1970’s, one-time brothel owner, serial adulterer and overall nice guy. I decided to ask him – what are your relationship rules?
I cannot emphasise enough that there is no one particular version of polyamory. Everyone (literally) does it differently. Some swingers call themselves polyamorists and other polyamorists are offended by this because they see their lifestyle as less about recreational sex and more about the potential social, political, spiritual connections and implications that are possible in a polyamorous lifestyle.
“There has been no shortage of health deities over the years, from the Aztec god of medicine Ixtlilton to the Afro-American Babalu Aye, spirit of illness and disease. There are at least sixteen in Celtic mythology alone; the Greeks and Romans had more than twenty between them. You would be hard pressed to find a topic that matters more to humans – who are we without our health?” – New Philosopher
It’s tough being a hippy in the Eastern suburbs. The cost of my organic groceries, essential oils, sleep hacking devices and fair-trade yoga pants is becoming increasingly hard to manage and is proving to be quite the sore spot in both my relationship and budget.
Ever been to yoga on a Sunday afternoon? The room stinks. It smells like vodka, off cheese, semen and come-down all packed together in an overheated sweat box. If you’re not passed out on the floor rocking in fetal position, you’re sweating out the weekend and some poor life choices on an eco-friendly, non-slip yoga mat.
One of my biggest gripes with new age spirituality and pop culture psychology is its complete disregard of the adversity that people face everyday. Shit things happen to really good people all the time. It sucks, I hate it and I wish it didn’t happen – but it does – and to ignore it or label it just another “story” is completely irresponsible and utterly delusional.
Self-love seems to be the hot, new buzzword making its way around the health and wellness spheres. It’s something I’ve really struggled to wrap my head around – and yeah I get it… I understand that it’s my responsibility to take care of my own needs and to nurture my own sense of peace, health and wellness so I have some happiness to share with others.
My woo woo spiritual teacher said I was too in my masculine and needed to surrender more into my feminine aspect. All the rushing around, setting new goals and striving towards them with single minded force was causing an energetic imbalance. The feminine aspect is far more subtle, it’s less about force but more about the energy of receiving with a greater sense of grace, calm and ease. I think he just told me to act like a girl.
Forever love - as beautiful as it sounds – is a really long time. So after 7 years of commitment, adventure and eventually domestic stagnation Ben and I decided to consciously uncouple…for context he prefers the term “part ways” but since Gwyneth is my spirit animal I will continue to refer to our break up as a conscious uncoupling.